He is also trying so hard to crawl. Yes, I said crawl. He gets himself moving, although usually backwards, but he wants to go go go go go! Alistair will turn a complete 180 degrees on the floor. Which means Peanut comes over and moves his toys behind him…but he still gets them. Wait until he is really moving, she is in for a rude awakening.
This is the blog of my day to day life, hectic as it may be. With my kids, my house, my work i sometimes feel that life is spinning out of control. But I always remember how special each day is and how much each moment is worth.
Thursday, June 07, 2007
First Tooth for Baby
He is also trying so hard to crawl. Yes, I said crawl. He gets himself moving, although usually backwards, but he wants to go go go go go! Alistair will turn a complete 180 degrees on the floor. Which means Peanut comes over and moves his toys behind him…but he still gets them. Wait until he is really moving, she is in for a rude awakening.
Wednesday, June 06, 2007
Blast from the Past
So we, Baby Alistair and I had lunch with him and my parents then after making our rounds picking kids up from school, the family came back to my parents for dinner with Dr. Bill. We had a great time catching up, and yes, dare I say it , reminiscing (do I feel old or what?) I used to think only really really old people would
Beach Party
Rub -A-Dub-Dub
The problem that lies therein, is that last night before bathtime, Miss Amanda got into the bathroom when I wasn't looking. She made her way to the toilet and was "washing" her hands. I think we still have a little work to do here...what do you think?
I should note that she thought it was the funniest thing ever! and was very proud of herself...
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Picnic Day
Amanda made herself right at home...being the cruise director, followed by socializing...ie she made her rounds waving hi to everyone in the area....Picking out a hat and having one of her teachers, Miss Nina personalize it, complete with pink dots!I think it rather makes her outfit, don't you?
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Memorable Memorial Day
The boys got up early to go fishing on Sunday (see my husbands post on his blog, called Gone fishing : http://downsyndromelife.blogspot.com/search/label/Fishing
We girls stayed home and hung out cleaning house,doing laundry, and shopping, of course!
Peanut cooled off with an ice cream cone, and polished the whole thing off on her own, no assistance needed..now that's MY girl! She signed ice cream, and then signed please! What a polite little girl I have. Funny thing is that when she was doen eating her cone, what does she sign..."MORE" of course!
She ate it so nicely, with little spillage...can you tell who has been in therapy for too long? I gues that kinda comes with the whole package. I wonder If I can apply for that honorary masters in OT, PT, DV and speech...wouldn't that be nice? I'm sure anyone with a child with special needs feel that they too should get an honorary degree in whatever specialty that they have had contact with...let's start a movement...all for it say 'aye"....
Hope you hade a great weekend. We did.
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
I'm Waiting.....
Monday, May 21, 2007
Thrill of the Chase
B leaves, and comes back empty handed. "Peanut where is your tooth brush?"
She looks at us and smiles walking out of the room. B follows her, and you can hear stuff being shuffled around in the other room. Once again, B returns empty handed.
He starts picking up laundry, looking under the bed, lifting the bed cloths looking for that elusive tooth brush. The one that grew legs and ran away right after Amanda finished brushing her teeth this morning. B opens the drawer to the night stand, pushes aside some books...still no tooth brush.
By now he is starting to get a little irritated. Still nursing the baby, I smile and offer some words of encouragment, " find it yet? How hard is is to find her tooth brush?"
Pushing aside the top of the clean laurndy that is stacked up waiting to be folded - pulling the basket away from the wall....AHA! The elusive tooth brush is found! "See honey, right where we always keep it!"
B gives me a dirty look...I smile.
Friday, May 18, 2007
Smiles....
She carries it around in school, "shopping" with the shopping cart.
I am so glad that she is enjoying school. What a releif!
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
The Last of the Great Over Achievers
Now I can focus on my kids and house for the next two months before I disappear into the depths of medical studies....At that point a "C" will no longer be acceptable. I will have backslide into my old world of youth...where A's count and B's are ok...who says we have to be old forever? Besides I can be young without Botox!
PS I still say that that mean wicked CHEMISTRY II teacher refused to give me my B because she wanted to prevent me from getting into my program...see we started the class with 25 students, only 9 of us were left to take the final. Everyone else dropped the class. Honestly, I thought about it. Dropping the class that is, but I decided to hang in their and just do my best. So I did. I lived, ate and breathed CHEMISTRY every waking minute that I wasn't in therapy with Amanda I was doing CHEMISTRY. When I was in therapy with her, all I talked about was CHEMISTRY. It was very, very sad that my life revoloved around CHEMISTRY. If I see the word CHEMISTRY again, it will be all too soon. Funny thing is is that people say my Hubby and I have a lot of CHEMISTRY...AAARGH!!!!!
PPS I got a B in genetics...My little angel, who happens to have Downs syndrome taught me everything and them some!? My B proves it...YAY!! Thank you precious Amanda...thank you.
Wednesday, May 09, 2007
New York Times Article on Down Syndrome
May 9, 2007
Prenatal Test Puts Down Syndrome in Hard Focus
By AMY HARMON
DETROIT — Sarah Itoh, a self-described “almost-eleven-and-a-half,” betrayed no trace of nervousness as she told a roomful of genetic counselors and obstetricians about herself one recent afternoon.
She likes to read, she said. Math used to be hard, but it is getting easier. She plays clarinet in her school band. She is a junior girl scout and an aunt, and she likes to organize, so her room is very clean. Last year, she won three medals in the Special Olympics.
“I am so lucky I get to do so many things,” she concluded. “I just want you to know, even though I have Down syndrome, it is O.K.”
Sarah’s appearance at Henry Ford Hospital here is part of an unusual campaign being undertaken by parents of children with Down syndrome who worry about their future in the face of broader prenatal testing that could sharply reduce the number of those born with the genetic condition.
Until this year, only pregnant women 35 and older were routinely tested to see if their fetuses had the extra chromosome that causes Down syndrome. As a result many couples were given the diagnosis only at birth. But under a new recommendation from the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, doctors have begun to offer a new, safer screening procedure to all pregnant women, regardless of age.
About 90 percent of pregnant women who are given a Down syndrome diagnosis have chosen to have an abortion.
Convinced that more couples would choose to continue their pregnancies if they better appreciated what it meant to raise a child with Down syndrome, a growing group of parents are seeking to insert their own positive perspectives into a decision often dominated by daunting medical statistics and doctors who feel obligated to describe the difficulties of life with a disabled child.
They are pressing obstetricians to send them couples who have been given a prenatal diagnosis and inviting prospective parents into their homes to meet their children. In Massachusetts, for example, volunteers in a “first call” network linking veteran parents to new ones are now offering support to couples deciding whether to continue a pregnancy.
The parent evangelists are driven by a deep-seated fear for their children’s well-being in a world where there are fewer people like them. But as prenatal tests become available for a range of other perceived genetic imperfections, they may also be heralding a broader cultural skirmish over where to draw the line between preventing disability and accepting human diversity.
“We want people who make this decision to know our kids,” said Lucy Talbot, the president of a support group here who prevailed on the hospital to give Sarah and two teenage friends an audience. “We want them to talk to us.”
The focus on the unborn is new for most parent advocates, who have traditionally directed their energy toward support for the born. But after broader testing was recommended in January, the subject began to hijack agendas at local support group meetings.
A dwindling Down syndrome population, which now stands at about 350,000, could mean less institutional support and reduced funds for medical research. It could also mean a lonelier world for those who remain.
“The impact of these changes on the Down syndrome community is going to be huge,” said Dani Archer, a mother in Omaha who has set aside other Down syndrome volunteer work to strategize about how to reach prospective parents.
The 5,500 children born with Down syndrome each year in the United States suffer from mild to moderate mental retardation, are at high risk for congenital heart defects and a variety of other medical problems, and have an average life expectancy of 49. As adults, some hold jobs, but many have difficulty living independently.
“There are many couples who do not want to have a baby with Down syndrome,” said Deborah A. Driscoll, chief of the obstetrics department at the University of Pennsylvania and a lead author of the new recommendation from the obstetricians’ group. “They don’t have the resources, don’t have the emotional stamina, don’t have the family support. We are recommending this testing be offered so that parents have a choice.”
But the richness of their children’s lives, parent advocates say, is poorly understood. Early medical intervention and new expertise in infant heart surgery stave off many health problems; legally mandated inclusion in public schools has created opportunities for friendship and fostered broader social awareness of the condition.
With no formal financing or organization, parents are arranging to meet with local obstetricians, rewriting dated literature and pleading with health care workers to give out their phone numbers along with test results. Medical professionals have for the most part responded with caution. Genetic counselors, who often give test results to prospective parents, say they need to respect patients who may have already made up their minds to terminate their pregnancy. Suggesting that they read a flyer or spend a day with a family, they say, can unnecessarily complicate what is for many a painful and time-pressured decision.
Their goal, parents say, is not to force anyone to take on the task of parenting a child with disabilities. Many participants in the ad-hoc movement describe themselves as pro-choice. Yet some see themselves as society’s first line of defense against a use of genetic technology that can border on eugenics.
“For me, it’s just faces disappearing,” said Nancy Iannone, of Turnersville, N.J., mother to four daughters, including one with Down syndrome. “It isn’t about abortion politics or religion, it’s a pure ethical question.”
Others admit freely to a selfish motive for their new activism. “If all these people terminate babies with Down syndrome, there won’t be programs, there won’t be acceptance or tolerance,” said Tracy Brown, 37, of Seattle, whose 2-year-old son, Maxford, has the condition. “I want opportunities for my son. I don’t know if that’s right or wrong, but I do.”
Ms. Brown has taken it upon herself to serve as a community resource on Down syndrome for prospective parents. She was encouraged when a counselor at the University of Washington Medical Center sent her an e-mail message recently with a question from a patient.
What developmental age equivalent, the patient wanted to know, do most people with Down syndrome reach?
For parents on an e-mail list where Ms. Brown solicited answers, the question underscored the difficulty in conveying the pleasure of parenting a child with Down syndrome to someone who has the option to reject it.
“Verbally,” wrote one mother of her teenager, “she’s at a 6-month level, but what 6-month-old do you know who can climb out a window and dance on a roof?!?!? We joke that she could climb Mt. Everest.”
“If someone had told me Sam would still be in diapers at age 5 — ugh — I probably would have died,” wrote another. “Living through it, not such a big deal. Because you don’t give birth to a 5-year-old, you grow with and love this kid for five years.”
Doctors have long recommended an amniocentesis test for pregnant women 35 and over, whose age puts them at greater risk for chromosomal defects. But because it carries a small risk of miscarriage, it has not been routinely offered to younger women, who give birth to the majority of children with Down syndrome.
Now, with a first-trimester sonogram and two blood tests, doctors can gauge whether a fetus has the extra 21st chromosome that causes Down syndrome with a high degree of accuracy and without endangering the pregnancy.
But many parents see expanded testing as a step toward a society where children like theirs would be unwelcome. The Newsweek columnist George F. Will labeled it a “search and destroy mission” for a category of citizens that includes his adult son, Jon Will.
Dr. Brian Skotko, a medical resident who has studied how mothers were told of prenatal diagnoses, found a high level of dissatisfaction. He said that most doctors have little or no training on how to relay a prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome.
When he talked to obstetricians, geneticists and medical students at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston about the subject last month, though, he was questioned sharply.
One doctor asked about studies suggesting there is a higher risk of early-onset Alzheimer’s disease in people with Down syndrome, potentially saddling parents with another caretaking burden as they themselves age. Others take issue with the notion that they do not give parents a balanced portrayal of the condition.
“It’s a mistake to say ‘your baby is going to be mentally retarded, you should have a pregnancy termination,’ ” said Dr. Allan Nadel, director of prenatal diagnosis at the hospital. “By the same token, I don’t think it’s quite fair to say ‘these are wonderful lovely human beings, you can deal with all of their problems and it’s not that big of a deal.’ We strive to have the proper balance.”
Parent advocates have some advice: don’t begin with “I’m sorry,” or “I have bad news,” as many of their own doctors did.
Weeks after Patricia Lanter decided to continue her pregnancy, having learned that Down syndrome had been diagnosed in her fetus, her doctor reminded her that she could still get an abortion in Kansas if an ultrasound indicated the baby would need heart surgery. Ms. Lanter, an emergency physician from Norwich, Vt., has secured an invitation to lecture the obstetricians in her hospital this summer.
In Wilmington, Del., Kristin Pidgeon recalled her doctor’s gloomy forecast for a local hospital audience: “She may be able to count change for the bus,” he had said of her as-yet-unborn daughter. “But what’s going to happen when the bus doesn’t come?” (Her daughter Aliza, now 5, does not yet take the bus, Ms. Pidgeon said, but she does ride horses as part of her therapy.)
In the Detroit suburbs, Ms. Talbot is still working out the best strategy to drive her points home to medical professionals. When one doctor suggested she had chosen to show them only “high-functioning kids” like Sarah and her own daughter, Megan, she asked Trevor Taylor, who lacks the ability to communicate verbally, to join the lineup.
At the Henry Ford visit, Mr. Taylor, 19, a natural ham, acted out his speech as Megan, 18, read it, before hitting the music and signing along to “What a Wonderful World.”
At the end, he blew a kiss to the audience. Then he hugged his mother.
Sunday, April 22, 2007
Farewell, dear friends
On a final note, if my "TEAM" is reading this, you are all amazing people, god sent, truly gifted talented caregivers, and any child who has you as their provider is blessed.
Though words are not enough, to express out gratitude, THANK YOU!
Sunday, February 18, 2007
School decisions...Good news
I got to my meeting 20 minutes early, as parking might be tricky with all the snow we’ve had lately, only to get a spot right in front of the school…however, I soon learned that they did not have the handicapped entrance on this side it was clear on the other side of the building…I gave up and shlepped my double stroller, complete with infant seat (little brother Alistair, 7 weeks, came with) and miss Amanda up the steps only to then spend four very long hours (the meeting was only slated to be two hours) with testing for Amanda and discussions, before we finally left.
I was not too sure where we stood when we left the meeting, I just knew that I had made sure they knew that I wanted Amanda to attend the private school best equipped to deal with her vision issues, as they are best equipped to give her the intensive vision training she needs. Which ironically, the vision person agreed she needed, but felt it was a toss up whether they could provide the services of if we needed to go to the private location. I made my points (that unless they could provide me with an aide to be with my child for every minute she is in school who is trained in vision, that she needs to be at the private school ). I happen to know that there is no such thing and if I can demonstrate that they can’t provide the services she needs, then they HAVE to send her to private school.
Her vision at best correction is 20/80…without correction she is 20/400…she essentially is low vision, not blind, but because her vision changes based on which glasses she wears, she needs help learning to see and adapt herself to her vision. But I digress…Basically after the meeting, I thought there was no way I would get her into the program because the public schools loses money if they send her there. First of all they kept telling me how she needs to be in a room with typical peers, and they felt the school for the blind would only old her back. Instead they were recommending a classroom of reverse inclusion, where the five kids there now who are all older then my daughter, all have cognitive delays, and no vision issues. Basically that not only would I be holding her back with her vision, but now I would be limiting her cognitively as well. I know my child is not a rocket scientist, but come on!! What a lame argument!
To make matters worse, at the meeting they were recommending that I send my child to a VERY high risk neighborhood, if the police see a white chick there, they stop you and tell you you need to leave (I am not kidding!! My PT had it happen to her as did my OT),...even my Black nanny wouldn't go to to that neighborhood! So I came home discouraged and trying to figure out if I could come up with the tuition money myself for private school.
Adding to this, there is a sheet you have to sign that you attended the meeting, and the diagnosis for which she requires services based on their evals…they wanted me to sign it or they can’t prepare for the IEP. I did what you said, I read the darn thing, took my time (15 minutes) and found a MISTAKE!!! They put that she ahs a vision impairment, and developmental delay as reasons for service, which is accurate. However, when listing the services, they put developmental as the main header with PT, OT, ST, Mobility training and vision was last all as supportive services…WRONG!!!! I said so too. The vision person agreed that vision should be right next to developmental as the main services with everything else as supportive. They made the correction, albeit begrudgingly. Then I signed it.
Friday afternoon, less then 24 hours later, a record for pgh public from what my EI therapists have told me, I get a call from the public school- they agreed to send Amanda to the private school! They will pickup the tab!!!! Not only that, but they called the school to see if they have room...they had one spot left, which they gave to Amanda ( I had called over there after my meeting on thursday to the director of the program, to give her a heads up that she might be getting a call from the public school, but that I wasn't too sure, just in case). Turns out the director saved the spot for Amanda, as the spots are available on a first come first serve basis, since I called the day before I beat another family to it!!!
OMG, I cannot tell you how relieved I am! I can relax about her vision issues they will address them to the umpth degree...meaning later she hopefully will need less services. Besides, they have this great policy if they lose a lense, the school will replace it for me! Won't my insurance company be happy.
I don't have to tell you 'cuz you know me pretty well to know that I stuck to my guns, refused to take no for an answer, and guess what it worked! Some people may say that I am too headstrong, and maybe to a fault, but here it worked to my advantage. It could have easily backfired, but I guess they saw I would only be a thorn in their side until I got what I wanted (truthfully I made a really good case)..what ever it was....
WHEW!!!!
We have our IEP meeting scheduled for March 8…we were given the follwing recommendations at the transition meeting for services weekly:
2 hours direct + 30 min Consultatory PT
1 hour direct OT
1 hour Direct Speech
Here's hoping for more great news after her IEP in march...ttyl
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
Just Another Day
Just another day at home with the kids...Alistair is getting pudgier by the minute...fitting in quite well with the older kids and their baby photos.
Alistair is ready for his meat and potatoes as you can see... he is 14 lbs 12 oz now, at just 7 weeks of age (breastmilk only)!
Big sister, Miss Amanda, loves her baby now. She asks to hold him, by signing, and will "love love her baby" by holdinghim tightly and rocking side to side, before trying to bite him (i think its her kisses) and then pushing him away. She's come a long way!
Aaaaah.....brotherly love...James decided to help Dad out the other noght while I was out at school, by giving Alistair his bottle....too bad he can't be this angel like all the time...all helpful and not makeing trouble. I guess it makes these moments all the more special.I've been busy with my head buried in chemistry books and genetics for my last two pre reqs before I start my program. Then I have had to deal with Strep that has been making its rounds in our house since the baby was born. It is a vicious scycle of drug, strep, drug strep...I am so hoping we are done with it now...not a fun circle to be stuck in.
Amanda has had one eval for her transition for PT today, we got the recommendation fo two hours direct Pt and half an hour consulting...I think that's pretty good. Anyone out there have any experiance with IEP's?
I'll try to post more frequently, but please don't hold your breath, I don't want that on my concisous!
Monday, January 29, 2007
Lawsuit to ensure inclusion for students with DS
New York, January 23, 2007 The National Down Syndrome Society (NDSS) has been named an organizational plaintiff in the class action lawsuit Grieco et. al v. New Jersey Department of Education et. al. The lawsuit alleges that New Jersey is in violation of IDEA requirements that a student be placed in the least restrictive environment appropriate for individual students. The complaint also alleges discrimination in violation of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA).
In addition to NDSS, the plaintiffs in the case include three children with Down syndrome, their families, TASH, New Jersey TASH, The Family Alliance to Stop Abuse and Neglect, and the National Down Syndrome Congress. The lawsuit alleges that students with Down syndrome have been denied an inclusive education, denied additional hours of inclusion and not received appropriate supplementary aids and services to support inclusive education. Andrew Hamelsky, an attorney at White and Williams LLP in New Jersey and Barbara E. Ransom, with The Public Interest Law Center of Philadelphia, are co-counsel on the lawsuit.
NDSS joined the lawsuit to provide support to the families involved with the hope of promoting systems change in New Jersey and opening more doors to students that want to be educated with their non-disabled peers across the country. NDSS Affiliates have traditionally been, and remain, uniquely positioned to provide a voice for students with Down syndrome in the governmental and judicial arenas regarding education policy.
Contact: Ricki SabiaNDSS National Policy Center800-743-5657rsabia@ndss.org
Monday, January 22, 2007
Tough Love
No injuries were acquired during this portrait session...As you can see Amanda loves her new baby brother. In fact she helps him out with his appearance by giving him facelifts, as she is demonstrating in the photo above. Really, I promise she was holding Alistair so nicely 30 seconds before!
Here's the Foursome all together, leave it to my older son to play around, ruining a perfectly nice picture!
Here's my Pudgy Wudgy Prince...We are working on our thrid chin, as you can clearly see.
Been busy, started back to school this past week, Tryingto find the time to study, which is very hard. Especially with my Hubby out of town the last couple of days. We managed, the four kids and I to behave ourselves, and not spend too much money. I took them to see the new Ben stiller movie, they enjoyed it tremendously.
Thursday, January 18, 2007
My lovely son, the Hollywood star
Sorry about the infrequent posts, I've been a little busy latley between school and the new baby, Alistair. I don't know if I 'm coming or going anymore.
I'll try to post a better update as soon as I can.
Monday, December 25, 2006
Hello, my name is......
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
It's A BOY!
My OB made it, and spent the entire labor with Brian and I, hanging out and keeping us company. He did me the favor of coming in to deliver me, even though he was not on call that night...brian and I are forever grateful!
The other three are adjusting well, I think. Time will tell definitively though.
Baby boy, will get his name on Saterday, at his circumsicion, and naming ceremony...until then you'll have to wait!
He has his nights and days mixed up, as he had when he was in utero been active between 6 pm and 5 am..he is keeping similar hours here with us. I am hoping he will striagten himself out soon, as I am exhuasted.
Will try to keep up for the next few weeks before my next classes start...
wishing everyone happy holidays.....
check out the pictures of the new bundle in brians blog at down syndrome life...
ttyl, me
Sunday, December 03, 2006
Congratulations....
These were the words at the top of the letter I recieved from the only program I applied to.
I am so relieved, as I went into my interview 9 months pregnant, big as ever, in a maternity buisiness suit that cost me a small fortune, wearing pantyhose (those of you who have been pregnant know how much of a sacrafice THAT was), and heels! Thank god they were able to see past my pregnancy, although I wasn't too sure they would, as they kept asking questions about it.
Three days after the interview, I got a call at eight o'clock at night from the program director giving me the official news. Which was then followed up by the very official envelope that arrived a week later. Although, it is conditional, I have two more prerequisite courses to finish next term in order for it to be really certain. Oh, did I mention the hefty deposit too? Yes, they want my money starting now. In large quantities....good thing I'll be making a good living in three years, I need to pay off the debt, plus the interest. any million dollar qget rich quick ideas?
So, I had been thinking that the interview was the hard part of the whole process, but now I'm thinking that the program may be. I have heard it is very difficult, but I am up to the challenge. One thing that my special little angel has taught me is to never give up. No matter how hard something may be, be persistent and your efforts will be rewarded. So far so good, now just in case keep your fingers crossed!
The program starts up this fall, so I need to start looking around to childcare arrangements and finalize schooling schedules for my other three kiddos. Life will be busy this year, and for the next couple of years, but we can manage.
I want to express my greatest thanks and appreciation to all my family who have been so incredibly supportive during the whole process thus far. I know I have not been the easiest person to be around, what with all the hormones (I can still blame the hormones, at least for the next week or so). But I truly appreciate all you have done, given up and worked for.
I also want to thank those friends who have also helped me out and been there for me in a pinch and in times of total freak outs! Thank you all for your support, and I promise one day you will see the rewards of your efforts...but not for a couple more years. So hang in there,
Yes, I am still aROUND, no baby yet, but getting there. Contractions, back aches, dilations all the fun end of the term stuff is going on and I am just anxiously awaiting that moment. So, I'll keep you posted on that part of life too.
